5th March 2016
Our books are all about the excuses people use to explain why they haven’t yet achieved what they’d really like to achieve. Whether it’s better health, a more fulfilling life, weight loss, more financial stability or a happy work life, excuses are our way of letting ourselves off the hook.
“I’m not up to it”
“I’m too old”
“I’ve never been good with….”
“I tried it once before and it didn’t work”
We’ve blogged before about how, if used regularly, these excuses become what coaches call Limiting Beliefs. Say something often enough to yourself and you’ll believe it. And when you believe it it will limit what you think you can achieve, so you stop trying.
But people also use excuses to abdicate responsibility. Here are a couple of examples:
Both of these people are closing the door on taking action and avoiding taking ownership of their situation.
The fact is, you have to own the responsibility for your own situation. You are not a victim of your circumstances. Yes, there may be some things you can’t change, but what can you change? There is always something.
So for our two examples:
Now what these two examples show is that change and success takes effort, and sometimes we don’t actually want to make the required effort, hence the excuse and the abdication of responsibility. In that case, for our own mental wellbeing the best thing to do is be honest and admit that for now we don’t feel like making that effort. Make a conscious decision about it and let it go, or park it. It’s OK to do that.
The alternative is to take action. Set that excuse to one side, take ownership of your situation and do what you can to get started. Baby steps are fine, just do something. You are not a victim of circumstances.
For more help on taking ownership of your own success, take a look at our books.